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In an Open Relationship.

31 Monday May 2010

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Almost one more hour for the paper and I am venting my frustration on my “complaints blog”. One with logical reasoning and those who have already proclaimed that I will not make a lawyer would rightfully point out to me that every second matters and that I should be trying to grill some knowledge into my brain which seems to be getting heavier by the minute..Well I shall on my part say that I am not going to waste a minute of my life anymore trying to study Commercial law!! Hated it during LLB, hate it now and will hate it for LIFE!! Yeah that is a pact that I just made with myself that I profess to hold onto till death do us part! That is between Law and Myself!

The relationship between Vositha and Law is like one of those open relationships. Neither party too committed and like the fun when it comes and hate those stressful moments. Well while Vositha seems to have no problem communicating the problems that are in the relationship Mr. Law realises he likes to take his time and just chill and let Vositha suffer, knowing she will get too frustrated with his behavior and one day give up. You see he doesn’t want to be the one to call it off, it does not look right in his eyes, after all she did go through some shit for all those stupid exams!!

Aaaagh!! Commercial Law!! Yeah Vositha hates it! She hates it so much that she does not give a dime about her stupid open relationship!! After all its merely an open relationship, and it’s high time she found proper commitment!!

Yeah she immediately sets off to find a better option!! (Well of course after sitting for the torturous paper!!)

Now would you call her dumb or insane?? I would not want to be the one judging :p

No more Galleface!!

29 Saturday May 2010

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OK I am rushing through with this post but this is something I heard while I was having a random chat with a kid in Cinnamon Grand. I try to convince him to help me out with the SLYCAN (Sri Lanka Youth Climate Action Network) and he tells me that Galleface beach stretch is going to disappear to make way to skyscrapers!!!

Now who came up with this bright idea?? Does this mean that we are actually not going to have anymore “Let’s go to Galleface for a walk??” in our life?? (Well I am speaking for those who do this because every time I pass the place I see thousands of average Sri Lakan citizens who spend their weekend with their family there)

And we do have to admit that it is an icon in the Sri Lankan life style where it has marked its presence in the literature, art, music and also in the history of Colombo.

I am not the expert on this matter, yet I am launching the debate so as to inform myself with regards to this subject as well as see the public opinion on the beach stretch’s disappearance.

Please feel free to comment and also raise questions on the matter 🙂

The Kind of Man one Should NEVER Fall for!

21 Friday May 2010

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This is one blog I have been wanting to publish for a while now, but due to lack of time didn’t have the capacity to do so. So here goes the points I have considered to be the worse things a man could do and the those signals that indicate that  you should run a mile away from him within 2 seconds.

1. Talk of emotions and then after a good 5 or 6 moths say ” you are so great, but it’s funny I have no clue why I am not ready for commitment!”

2. To be confused as to whether he should kiss someone, despite which he goes ahead and kisses the person and still be confused whether he did the correct thing!

3. To share your ipod, then start listening to songs all by himself for the next 3 hours while you are left wondering why the hell you are around him!!

4. Have a million issues with all your clothes!

5. Take you out for diner and then constantly keep messaging another woman!

6. Continue messaging the other woman even after you make it explicitly clear that you are annoyed with his behavior!

7. Always repeat to other friends “oh we are just friends!”

8. Ana then ask you, ” Are we friends with benefits??!!??”

9. Talk with you till midnight, hang up and call another woman till 2 am in the morning.

10. Never appreciate anything you do for him.

11. Make you wait for hours after getting all dressed up to leave the house, just because he has to check his mail!!

12. Make you beg and even cry to be taken out, when he is clearly aware that you hate hanging around alone in the house.

13. Suggest to take you out, and when you are all set to go, 15 minutes before state that he is meeting friends for work and that you might feel bored and it would be better that you do not come! (Now didn’t he know about the work part when he asked you to come with him??)

14. Never say sorry for hurting you though he knows that what he does hurts you.

15. Ask on a random conversation “missionary or doggy?!!” WHAT THE HELL!! Do you have no sense of conversing with a woman??

Okay these are just a few, the list will be lengthened with every story heard or lived, feel free to add to the list 🙂

Last day in Paradise :(

18 Tuesday May 2010

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Heather is back from Arugambay and we have our day out to celebrate her coming back 🙂 but to pack her stuff and leave for Japan a day’s time.

It sucks because over the last two months we have grown close to each other and I feel close to her than some people I have known over the years.

She is at present trying to force vitamin C tablets down my throat because she doesn’t want me to catch a cold as she says “I would feel bad if you were to catch a cold from me!”

I tell her “yeah I would feel bad too if I were to catch a cold.” lol

Okay one more day and it will be us planning our next trip. This time not in Sri Lanka but may be somewhere else where we would get to share many more near death experiences and hilarious moments of cultural awakening.

We walk out of the coffee stop today and I tell Heather that one of our friends will come with her to drop her at the airport. And she is like in the middle of the night??

I tell her “we are Sri Lankans!”

She goes “yeah you are right! I forgot how nice you guys are! I try to be nicer to people after coming to Sri Lanka”

That was one sweet thing to say 🙂 I am happy that she thinks that we are nice people but I don’t see the extra effort she needs to put in to be “nicer” because I already consider her to be one of the nicest people I have met in my whole life, a person I will treasure for all life and someone I would call my friend for life 🙂

So Heather “this one’s for you” yeah as you would say “I love you too!”

Is it high time that Sanath Jayasuriya announced his retirement??

16 Sunday May 2010

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Well I am not the biggest fan of cricket but I do catch a little bit of it here and there. But I have for a great while being a great fan of Sanath Jayasuriya. However of late I have started wondering similar to many who watch the 20-20 World Cup that his performance is not quite commendable.

The question raised is, is it the correct time for him to retire from international cricket?? I mean isn’t it always better to be remembered as a person who terrorized the ballers than be remembered for an average of like 5 runs for 10 matches. Well I am not saying that it’s his current average for batting but just raising the question hypothetically.

In any case with his new responsibilities as a minister in parliament may be the new change should be initiated. You know, sit in his chair in the parliament and see what can be grasped in that calamity and do something for all those people who for some reason voted him in.

So yeah, the question remains, when will he announce his retirement or should he actually make that move?

The Laziest Days of My Life!

15 Saturday May 2010

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Yeah another paper to be written in just two days and I am yet to touch my notes! Yeah people ask me “so how do you study?” I say, “I start studying three days before the exam” and they go like “Come on men don’t con!”

I just want them to believe what they want cz I simply don’t see the point of trying to explain the craziness of my studying patterns.

Well I am officially self proclaimed lazy when it comes to studying. I never thought I will ever say this , but I think exams suck! Yeah they do! Found some good excuse to postpone the bar finals for a good 1.5 yrs and now I have run out of excuses.
My sister asks me,” haven’t you been doing this for quite some time now? ”

I correct her ” Haven’t I not been doing this for quite a while!”

Well as they say, “a man’s got to do what he’s got to do!” or rather “woman” in this case.

I am thinking of a suicide pack just for the fun of it. I suggest it to Rishi while we were both wondering about the way we were spending our Fridays! I mean surely we both would have better things to do on a friday such as laugh our heads off rather than keep staring at computer screens.

I am waiting for a bottle of cognac that is to be saved and safely delivered hopefully end of June and some good moments when I can just for a fraction of a second forget “books” and hit the beach 🙂

Yeah Unawatuna!! Here I come! ( ok this is a statement paused for the next whole month)

Well enough of all this wasted talk, me have a paper to prepare for! ( which I would rather skip doing!)

See you on the other side, if I ever get there!

“Let’s get naked!”

12 Wednesday May 2010

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For all those who are wondering what the hell I am about to blog, well it’s about something that kind of caught my attention a few days back.

Definitely not because someone had the audacity to utter those words to me.  No, not really 🙂 Actually it is all thanks to a movie I was watching a couple of days back. The movie ” Valentine’s Day” which ended with these three words.

Here goes the last few seconds of the movie:
A radio announcer who talks about the love and the wonderment of Valentine’s day and then moves on to state about the three words that everyone wants to hear! Of course me being the idiot I was thinking “I love you” and for my greatest surprise he pronounces “Let’s get naked!”

I was like “whoaaat??”

Well I don’t know much about others but one thing’s for sure, I definitely would appreciate “I love you” rather than what he deemed to be the most wonderful words that people according to him were dying to hear.( It has to be added that what is appreciated is a genuine “I love you” and not the kind one would say just because he is a hypocrite, a moron and a big time jerk! )

But then, when i do speak to some people I do wonder whether the last few lines of the movie has some truth embedded in them. I mean i talk to good friends who are utterly miserable that they are not getting lucky!!!!
I ask what is the big frustration?? They give me this ” Where the hell did you come?!” kind of look.

However, just typed these down because it made me think and rethink and think again and again and again about certain things in life. Things like relationships, flings, and many other terms that can be attached to the same list.

There was a time I tried to analyse where I stood with someone and it was always left unanswered even in my head till it ended up getting me stupidly hurt and losing all faith and trust in any man who would ever dare to get closer to me!

Now looking back I wonder, had it being for me as according to those people that the radio announcer was speaking of, the above three words were the most wonderful to be heard, would I have felt so stupid as I did when in the end I found myself so faithless!

Unfortunately for me I would never know, because I still remain one of those who believes “I love you”to be those three magical words..

But then again what do I know?? May be it’s the other way round…mmm….

I miss you!

10 Monday May 2010

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I have finally stepped into academia again. A huge step for months of studying from one set of papers to another. With the relief of having finally made up my mind and made that ever important step of actually building courage into putting myself through the torture.

But among all that I miss you!

I miss you who are abroad, and you who are  in the country.

I miss you who are just a few minutes away yet I meet on a very rare basis.

I miss you who are a call away but of whom I rarely get to hear the voice.

I miss all the laughter shared and even the stupid fights we may have had, the sarcasm and the humor found and shared with just one glimpse at each others’ eyes.

I miss the mornings where we wake up to the stupidest of calls, the stupidest of jokes, the stupidest of annoying moments or the stupidest of wrestles 🙂

I miss the conversation shared, the songs sung, the secrets still kept within us.

I miss all the wonderful times, the amazing experiences and new adventures and most of all  a person who really gets me.

I miss you and every moment treasured.

I miss you and I just can’t wait to see you again 🙂

Do I Really Want This??

09 Sunday May 2010

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Do I want this?? This is a question that I ask myself on a regular basis of late. Be it a relationship, studies, profession I keep torturing myself with the same question, over and over again.

Well when it comes to a relationship, sometimes the decision seems a little easier and sometimes the other party seems to offer it to you even without you asking them to solve it for you 🙂 and sometimes even when the answer to the question is yes from your side, the other party complicates everything for you confusing you more than you ever imagined you to be capable of being confused! (which I think is terrible but have being the victim of late)

Nevertheless how does this solve my current dilemma?? Do I want to be a lawyer?? May be yes, may be no! Well that is a question I fail to answer 😦

And a friend made it a point to tell me in the morning that I would not make a lawyer! How nice 🙂 Well have to say that the person did have substantial grounds to make the statement. I think some people know me better than I know myself!

Do I really want this??I don’t know!

Why did i study this?? I have no clue either!

But one thing for sure I never intended to be doing this many stupid exams that I am pushed into doing!! Hell NOOO!!

I am done with exams! I think I have done enough to last a life time!!

Or have I?? mmm…

Relationships or Manacles??

08 Saturday May 2010

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Today I was having coffee with one of my good friends that I have known for more than 6yrs. He was nice enough to help me out with my exam work as I was unfortunately dying being swamped with two many legal terminology I am incapable of grasping.

In the middle of it, his phone starts ringing and the whole demeanor changes. I ask him what is wrong and he tells me it’s his girlfriend.
I tell him to answer the phone to which he replies that she doesn’t know that he is with me and that hence he cannot respond!

The petrified look on his face and then the sudden panicked look in his eyes make me wonder what he is doing being in such a relationship. He has been complaining for the last two years that he is not happy and the reaction sort of made me realize to what extent his life is a pretext. What sort of a relationship is it that makes you need to lie or cover up your presence with a friend you have known over the years? Most of all given the fact that he was merely helping another person with something as innocent as studies!!

I felt bad as I was the reason for him to get so panicked.And it also made me wonder what people get into calling it “being in a relationship”!

Is a relationship something that makes us pretend to be something we are not? Is it that which makes us lie and then cut down on being with our friends?? Is a it something that ties us down and make us enforce upon ourselves manacles pulling us down and creating tension within us??

In my process of typing this he calls me. I ask him how he is and whether he was okay and tell him that I hope that they didn’t have a fight.

He laughs another pretext he lives with on a daily basis and tells me that they did, but not something regarding me!! (of course he did not tell her that he helped me out!)

I laugh because I have no other reaction for the situations he gets himself into while silently praying that what ever relationship I may be in, that I would find someone who would be nice enough to understand that coffee with someone is sharing a friendly moment over coffee,  and that helping a friend with studies is something nice and would encourage me in such endeavor rather than make me feel horrified enough not to pick the phone when it rings!

But for my misfortune,  if I do not find such a man (which I believe would not be the case, nevertheless hypothetically assuming), well I would rather enjoy being me and single than be some person who has no clue what the hell I am doing with my life 🙂