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Wisdom from 2013

31 Tuesday Dec 2013

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2013, Akashiv, love, moving on after divorce, single mum

Three things I have learnt in 2013:

  1. I love my son, I love him  “a lot!”

People often ask me how difficult it is being a single mum. Well the answer depends on the day you ask the question. Then again, one things remains a constant, and that being the fact that having Akashiv has been the most amazing experience. He has shown me how altruistic kids could be. He would feed me first when he is given food, dance with me every day with no complains till he falls asleep with his head on my shoulder, and read to me his book with the alphabet and numbers. Despite all the travel I have been on during the year, he has been an understanding little one who would poke around to check what mummy has brought him from wherever she had been and wave around and scream in joy upon seeing me, however much haggard I would look after hours of travel. Many ask me whether my son recognises me after my travel, all I know is a kid never forgets his mum, at least not my little one!

2. Work can keep one busy, and sane!

Sure divorce ain’t a joke, and starting afresh is an uphill climb. But working on something you believe in can make a huge difference. One might be sceptical about this, but sometimes the only thing that keeps you sane after a major change in life, is being a workaholic. Oh yeah, and a leap of faith to go with it!

3. You can fall in love!

Divorce is not the end of life! No it isn’t! We make choices in life which might not be the best, but there is always space for improvement. Being a divorcee or a single parent is not the worst thing in the planet, it is a fresh start from what might have been a miserable life of pretext. And trust me one does find love. There are decent people in the world, who would adore you for who you are! Once again, a little trust in one’s self, a little respect for one’s self, and yes, one moves on! At least that is what I believe in!

So  nothing too glamourous to sign up for the year, but just a write-up or more of a wrap-up of the wisdom the year has offered me.

Wish you all a very happy new year! May the world find more commitment for good deeds, and less time for pettiness!

“A Single Mum, a Working Mum”

02 Thursday May 2013

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Akashiv, babies, taking care of toddlers, working mother in Sri Lanka

SAM_1723I wake up at 4 am to the sound of my son calling “tha tha tha”. He is still too young to distinguish between genders, and is happy calling everyone dad. Or at least that is what the sounds combined would mean in Sinhala. But nope, Akashiv does not think it has any difference, whether he calls his mum dad, or mum. He likes the word and he shalt use it.

The early hours of the morning consists on hugging the kid in an attempt to convince him that it is time to sleep, and not the time to try climbing off the cot, to jump on mummy’s bed, to make an attempt to pull mummy’s hair. He does not agree. He likes the list as they be, and many more added to it. So yes, mummy shall stay awake till he decides to sleep. And that of course is when mummy has to prep up for work. But “who cares?” Right? Mummy needs to play with baby, and baby insists.

I open the laptop, check my mail. There was a time I looked for personal mail, but now, it seems more like work, work, and work. The inbox be filled with mailing list based communication which seem to over-flow.

Baby is up, and he wonders what mummy does. She seems to like poking her finger on some letters more than she likes to spend time with him, so he must like whatever that thing is!
“Let me try to poke too!!” A high-speed crawling baby approaches mummy’s laptop just to see what is so fascinating that mummy does not seem to have time for him.

“NO NO Akashiv! Do not pull out letters off the key board!”

Too late! “T” has suffered a sudden death, permanently segregated itself from my keyboard.

Akashiv looks at me with a quizzical look. Comes close to the bed post and plays with his shadow. He has discovered of late that he can shake his fingers and make the shadows move, among other things such as : if he pulls hard the protection on the play pen will come off, if he puts his hand into a jug of milk it can be spilled, if he pulls on the spoon used to feed him he can apply the pulp being fed all over himself.

I continue typing, he peeps in and I let him sit on my lap and try to remove more letters off my keyboard.

He shrieks with pleasure, tries to stick fingers up my nose, fails and resorts to making sounds again.

And I turn to reading my mail, again.

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